Muri iki gihe usanga ingo nyinshi ziifite ibibazo rimwe na rimwe bikanabaviramo gutandukana kandi nyamara ari ibintu bishoboka ko bombi bakabaye birinda ariko kubera kutamenya ugasanga urugo rurasenyutse.
Dore impamvu 5 zikomeye ziba intandaro yo gutandukana kw’abashakanye:
1. Kumena amabanga y’urugo
Akenshi iyo umwe mu bashakanye agiye avuga mugenzi we cyangwa amena amabanga y’urugo ntibyorohera undi kubyihanganira kuko ahita yumva ko uwo yita ko bajya inama nta banga agira bigatuma yahitamo gutandukana nawe.
2. Guhorana intonganya
Kutavugana neza mu rugo rw’abashakanye ni kimwe mu bituma umwe mu bashakanye afata icyemezo cyo gutana n’uwo babanaga kuko nta muntu wapfa kwihanganira mugenzi we babana mu rugo uhora avuga nabi kuko iyo abantu bashakanye, baba bakeneye kugira ibyishimo mu rugo rwabo. Iyo umwe mu bashakanye akomeje kwihanganira intonganya zihora mu rugo, igihe kiragera kwa kwihangana kugashira akumva batandukana.
3.Kumva amabwire
Amagambo ashobora kwinjira mu rugo rw’abashakanye bakayaha umwanya ajya atuma umwe yumva azinutswe undi kubera ibyo abwirwa bitari byiza k’uwo babana.Umuntu ukeneye kubakana n’uwo bashakanye kandi bakabana akaramata ntaba agomba kumva amabwire ngo ayahe agaciro
4.Gushaka kwikubira
Abenshi mu bashakanye bakunze gupfa imitungo aho usanga umwe ashaka indonke ku giti cye akirengagiza uwo bashakanye, bigatuma haza umwuka mubi mu rugo kuko umwe aba atitaye ku wundi. Abashakanye ntibaba bakwiye gutandukanwa n’ibintu nk’ibi mu gihe babanye bakundana by’ukuri kuko akenshi baba barasezeranye kuzabana akaramata, niyo mpanvu baba bagomba kwihanganirana muri byose kandi bakubakira ku kuri n’ibiganiro, aho bitagenda neza bagasasa inzobe bakabicoca bigakemuka, umunezero ukarushaho gutemba mu rugo rwabo
5. Kutajya inama mu rugo
Iyo abantu babana batajya inama mu rugo rwabo ngo bafate ingamba zo kurwubaka rugakomera ahubwo ibyemezo byose bigafatwa n’umuntu umwe, usanga hari ubangamiwe bigasa nk’aho we ntacyo amaze mu rugo maze akaba yatekereza gutandukana n’uwo bashakanye kuko aba abona nta bufatanye buri mu rugo.
TANGA IGITECYEREZO